SAYACINTAINDONESIA — Maybe indeed many of us think that every family member should always be open to each other and communicate everything. Starting from the activities to be carried out, the thoughts that are burdening, to people other than our family who are close to us. But, often we also want to have our own privacy where not everything is known by family members.
It feels like having your own privacy and being able to give certain boundaries to people at home. It also feels like giving an understanding that the older you are, the more you want to have your own life. Plus the current situation that requires all of us to stay at home where we usually can spend time outside with friends. However, reality is often not as easy as you want it to be. In fact, there may also be doubts about whether it is okay to have such a wish.
Getting to Know Healthy Boundaries in TheFamily
Certain privacy or boundaries within the family are also known as boundaries or personal space. Boundaries are actually an important territory in the family, which means it should be in the family. However, the boundaries that are formed must include healthy boundaries, friends, as known as boundaries that are indeed useful for maintaining our autonomy as individuals.
A Little Common examples of Healthy Boundaries in The Family
- Children are not allowed to enter the parent’s room or workspace at certain hours when the parents are doing important work.
- Neither parent nor child should check each other’s cell phones too often without permission or specific needs.
- Family members inform each other of activities outside the home such as when, where, and with whom.
- Agreement on what homework the family members have to do.
- Asking permission or informing family members if you want to invite certain guests to your home.
How Do You Build Healthy Boundaries that Can Be Accepted by All Family Members?
Clear and Consistent
If you want to build certain healthy boundaries, clearly state your intentions. You also have to set these boundaries consistently so that other people don’t mind fulfilling your wishes in building these healthy boundaries.
Assertive Communication
The next important thing is how you communicate the healthy boundaries you want. Expressing feelings or desires is difficult, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be done. Don’t force your will and keep trying to listen to the opinions of other family members. Feel free to share your point of view so that the best decision can be agreed upon by all family members.
Try to Understand and Respect Other’s Boundaries
If you want to establish healthy boundaries within your family, then you should also be aware that other family members may also want to have their own boundaries. Try to understand their wishes and respect those boundaries.
So, that’s all which you can try to follow and there’s nothing wrong if you want to have certain boundaries in the family. But, keep your family a priority and don’t let the boundaries you make actually distance your relationship with other family members, okay!
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